Healing Emotional Wounds
Perhaps if you are reading this, you are curious about whether or not you have emotional wounds.
Well I can tell you for sure that you most certainly do! It's part of being human and taking this journey we call life! The problem is most of them are probably unconscious and so you are not aware of them, but trust me, they are there!
- What can we do about them
- How do we recognise them?
- Do we want to leave well alone and leave the past in the past?
My advice to you would be we absolutely must uncover our wounds and the hidden parts of ourselves that everyone else can see, but we are blind to, so that they can no longer keep repeating in our lives and causing us endless pain and problems.
I believe the answer is to start to live your life in a conscious way.
Living a conscious life
This means becoming awakened to our true self, our true Essence!
I firmly believe that we all have a purpose, that we are all here on the planet at this time to learn, to grow (in consciousness) and to fulfill the role that we were meant to fulfill in service to our soul. Yes that right we all have a soul, but perhaps you don’t talk to yours very often!
A body of work that I became familiar with a few of years ago confirmed this belief for me, when I heard this analogy it was like a light bulb went on and everything made sense.
I don’t know why I feel compelled to write about this today – as its Good Friday but I am sure that reason will come to me in time!
This work is called The Return to Essence and it was invented by the fabulous psychologist Carl Young.
In brief his theory is that we are born as essence, at a very young age we are wounded, its’ supposed to happen, its part of the individuation process from our parents. It doesn’t have to be something major; it can be something very small but we give meaning to it.
Following our wounding a protector part comes in and forms our personality, our identity and then we grow up thinking that is all we are, but we are so much more than that. That is just a part of who we are and we have many parts (that’s a blog for another day).
At mid life, when we start to evaluate our lives and think more clearly and perhaps for some of us, start to ask profound questions like who am I, why I am here, what am I supposed to do and what’s it all about.
I guess not everyone asks themselves these questions but I certainly did for a long time, I didn’t understand what “finding yourself” meant but now I do, I get it.
It’s at this point in life that many of us start to investigate a different path and have a knowing inside of us that there has to be more to life than this, than what we experience through our 5 senses.
We then start to question and explore other avenues; we find a coach or a teacher or start to read books on spirituality and consciousness. We are all in my opinion, searching for meaning, what does our life mean, at a core level, I believe we all want to know that our lives matter and that we have made a difference.
Once we start on this road, the journey back to essence that Joseph Campbell called the hero’s journey, (I call it the heroine’s journey) things start to change, we become more aware, we really do start to “wake” up!
That is what my work is about, helping people to wake up! And to know that they are so much more then they think they are, they are pure essence and it’s only because of all the baggage that we continue to carry with us year after year, that we can’t see it, but if you start to get quiet, the soul will speak to you but it whispers it doesn’t shout! You must be quiet to hear it.
Living on Purpose
One of my mentors told me to live on purpose you have to have 3 things
- A spiritual practice so that you can hear the deeper wisdom from your higher self and beneath the ego.
- To know what is unique and special about you, which is formed by your wounds and your celebrations. What are you gifts? What do you love to do?
- And to be in service with your gifts, in whatever capacity that may mean for you, whether it be a wonderful mother or wife, a doctor, a cook, an artist, whatever your purpose is and once you discover it you know for certain that is it! There is no mistaking it. And your life is never the same again!
My greatest wound was to lose my parents as a teenager and to live my younger years feeling afraid, unconfident worthless and hopeless, to then find myself on this path and discover my purpose which is to help other women discover who they are much earlier so they don’t have to spend 30 years going through the pain I went through.
That is my purpose and had I not been through everything I have been through because of my wound, I would not be living my purpose today so at this point in my life I can actually say that on some level I am grateful for my wound.
I would not have consciously chosen it but I see that it was all meant to happen. The pieces of the puzzle are coming together.
If you want to make changes in your life or if you would like some help trying to make sense of your life, and in discovering why you feel the way you are feeling, contact me.
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