Developing a healthy relationship
There has been a surge of requests from individuals looking to develop a "healthy relationship." Unfortunately, what many people do not realize is that if they are not healthy themselves, looking for a healthy relationship is a futile endeavor. This is because a healthy relationship requires two healthy parties growing together. That cannot occur, however, if one person is unhealthy.
Healthy vs. unhealthy relationships
Consider what would happen if you placed a spoiled fruit together with a fresh one in a plastic bag in the refrigerator. Would you expect the spoiled fruit to become less spoiled because it is in the same package as the "healthy" fruit? I would suspect that you would say "no."
Well, the same thing occurs when you put an unhealthy person with a healthy person together. The results would be the same, wherein you expect the healthy person to affect the unhealthy one positively.
The result could be disastrous as you put undue pressure on the healthy person to meet your emotional and mental needs. Thus, it would be much worse if you have two unhealthy people in a relationship together.
The Keys to a healthy relationship
The key to being in a healthy relationship is to first look and check the unhealthiness within you before trying to unite with someone else. You won't be able to tell unless you are honest with yourself.
- The first step in this process would be to admit that there are areas which need addressing
- It is important to be open and willing to try new things
- There must be a willingness to commit and invest in change
The Process of creating a healthy relationship
The process is simple:
- Commitment to change
It is only then can you emerge into the individual that you would like to be.