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Donald Gibson shop-relationship-coaching Saving Your Marriage at Your Pace (1 payment discount) Save your marriage for less than what you spend going out to eat every week. Imagine putting together a swing set for your children. Most of us don't read instructions. We look at the picture and go from there. If we don't read the instruction manual, how would we know if we’re missing any tools to properly assemble the “set” if we aren’t carefully going step by step. We get the swing set to look like the picture. But when the elements starts to hit or pressure is applied or our kids come along we see just how shaky the set is. We notice it can't handle the weight, temperament or the wind that it is being exposed to all because we left out one of the most important qualities to building this swing set: Properly reading the manual first. Because of our lack of diligence our children are now getting hurt on the swing set we put together what we thought was with love, naively. The same thing happens with our marriages. We put them together without reading the instruction manual. We go off our own interpretation on how "we" think our marriage is supposed to be. That's why Imperfect Coupl3s Marriage Preparation exists. We're here to give you the tools you may have missed when putting your marriage together. This 24 week course consists of weekly homework assignments, exercises, marriage tools, journals, goal assessments and personality test. In between weekly homework assignments I am available via text and email for additional support. Calls are available if needed. Month 1: Understanding who you are as individuals Month 2: The communication Cycle Month 3: Sensitive Conversations Month 4: The Art of Love Month 5: Dealing with Marital Challenges Month 6: Creating a Vision/Developing a plan for your marriage/family The duration of this agreement shall be for 24 weeks. Scheduled Coaching Sessions: Client understands and agrees to fully participate in the homework assignments at the following rate as agreed: All fees are payable in advance a before the each session. AS A CLIENT, I UNDERSTAND AND AGREE THAT I AM FULLY RESPONSIBLE FOR MY WELL BEING DURING MY COACHING CALLS, INCLUDING MY CHOICES AND DECISIONS. I AM AWARE THAT I CAN CHOOSE TO DISCONTINUE COACHING AT ANY TIME. I RECOGNIZE THAT COACHING IS NOT PSYCHOTHERAPY AND THAT PROFESSIONAL REFERRALS WILL BE GIVEN IF NEEDED. I ALSO ACCEPT THAT IF MY COACH SUSPECTS THAT I OR SOMEONE I KNOW COULD BE IN A HARMFUL SITUATION MY COACH CAN CONTACT THE POLICE AND THE CLIENT CONFIDENTIALITY CLAUSE WILL BE NULL AND VOID https://www.lifecoachhub.com/img/uploads/courses/thumbs/710_1544309831.png
Saving Your Marriage at Your Pace (1 payment discount) Save your marriage for less than what you spend going out to eat every week. Imagine putting together a swing set for your children. Most of us don't read instructions. We look at the picture and go from there. If we don't read the instruction manual, how would we know if we’re missing any tools to properly assemble the “set” if we aren’t carefully going step by step. We get the swing set to look like the picture. But when the elements starts to hit or pressure is applied or our kids come along we see just how shaky the set is. We notice it can't handle the weight, temperament or the wind that it is being exposed to all because we left out one of the most important qualities to building this swing set: Properly reading the manual first. Because of our lack of diligence our children are now getting hurt on the swing set we put together what we thought was with love, naively. The same thing happens with our marriages. We put them together without reading the instruction manual. We go off our own interpretation on how "we" think our marriage is supposed to be. That's why Imperfect Coupl3s Marriage Preparation exists. We're here to give you the tools you may have missed when putting your marriage together. This 24 week course consists of weekly homework assignments, exercises, marriage tools, journals, goal assessments and personality test. In between weekly homework assignments I am available via text and email for additional support. Calls are available if needed. Month 1: Understanding who you are as individuals Month 2: The communication Cycle Month 3: Sensitive Conversations Month 4: The Art of Love Month 5: Dealing with Marital Challenges Month 6: Creating a Vision/Developing a plan for your marriage/family The duration of this agreement shall be for 24 weeks. Scheduled Coaching Sessions: Client understands and agrees to fully participate in the homework assignments at the following rate as agreed: All fees are payable in advance a before the each session. AS A CLIENT, I UNDERSTAND AND AGREE THAT I AM FULLY RESPONSIBLE FOR MY WELL BEING DURING MY COACHING CALLS, INCLUDING MY CHOICES AND DECISIONS. I AM AWARE THAT I CAN CHOOSE TO DISCONTINUE COACHING AT ANY TIME. I RECOGNIZE THAT COACHING IS NOT PSYCHOTHERAPY AND THAT PROFESSIONAL REFERRALS WILL BE GIVEN IF NEEDED. I ALSO ACCEPT THAT IF MY COACH SUSPECTS THAT I OR SOMEONE I KNOW COULD BE IN A HARMFUL SITUATION MY COACH CAN CONTACT THE POLICE AND THE CLIENT CONFIDENTIALITY CLAUSE WILL BE NULL AND VOID https://www.lifecoachhub.com/img/uploads/courses/thumbs/710_1544309831.png

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  1. Module 1 : Imperfect Coupl3 Marriage Preparation

    Welcome to Imperfect Coupl3s Marriage Preparation. This is for singles, couples, engaged, newlywed and eve seasoned marriages. I'm extremely excited you care about your marriage and family enough to seek help. God said study to show thyself approved. God also said his people perish because of lack of knowledge. You are taking the step to show yourself approved for marriage by getting the knowledge to ensure your marriage doesn't perish.

    I want you to buy a three ring binder. You will use this binder for what we call your Imperfect Coupl3 Bibles. You will print out all your exercises with your answers and place them in your Imperfect Coupl3 Bible. At any time anyone has a lapse or forgets something, refer to your Imperfect Coupl3 Bible to see all that you've previously agreed to.

  2. Module 2 : Characteristics of a Healthy Marriage

    Today we will go over 12 Characteristics or ingredients essential to a healthy marriage. These are conversation starters intended to get your mind going and start thinking deeply about your marriage.

  3. Module 3 : 5 Principles of Communication

    These are principles that will take your communication to another level with each other. The first Principle is one that I find to be very essential in communication.

  4. Module 4 : Purpose of Marriage

    There is nothing God did without Purpose. Here we break down What is Purpose and What is the Purpose of Marriage.

    Before the next module take a look at these Communication Guidelines. We will use these guidelines to work through all of your communication modules.

  5. Module 5 : Advance Communication

    Over the next four weeks we will be going through the Communication Cycle.

    Skillful listening is essential to building a close, happy and healthy relationship. When you listen skillfully, giving your partner your full attention, it is greatly appreciated and valued.
    We all want to be understood and known by those we are close with. This exercise will teach you the skills needed to connect emotionally with your partner and fulfill his or her needs to be understood and known.
    As well, the closeness built through skillful listening contributes to a healthy sexual relationship and a stable and long lasting marriage.

    When you are a successful Listener and you connect with what your partner is saying, your partner will feel loved and cared for. This connection is like giving your partner an emotional massage and builds emotional intimacy and trust.
    Note: The person sharing an idea or feeling is the Speaker. The person working to understand the Speaker is the called the Listener.

  6. Module 6 : "I" Statements

    When a person feels that they are being blamed—whether rightly or wrongly—it’s common that
    they respond with defensiveness. “I” statements are a simple way of speaking that will help you
    avoid this trap by reducing feelings of blame. A good “I” statement takes responsibility for one’s
    own feelings, while tactfully describing a problem.

  7. Module 7 : Constructive Communication

    In the previous exercise you learned "I" Statements. In this exercise we are going to put those statements to use in what we call Constructive Communication.

    The following exercise will teach you the basics of healthy and effective communication. You need to practice it until it becomes second nature and becomes integrated in the way you and your partner speak with each other.
    Words are the bridge between you and your partner. Your bridge needs to be healthy and strong in order to connect you and your partner properly and closely.

  8. Module 8 : Reflective Listening

    Reflective listening is a powerful communication skill. By reflecting back to your partner what they said, you demonstrate to your partner that you heard more than the words they used – you show that you understand their thoughts and feelings and heard their point of view. To merely say to your partner “I understand” does not prove that you understand, reflective listening does. To be an effective reflective listener you must momentarily put aside your own point of view, put aside your own thoughts and feelings, let go of the concept of right and wrong, and listen with your heart. Reflective listening is far more than hearing the words and repeating them back to your partner; it is letting your partner know you understood their thoughts, feelings and related actions.
    Reflective listening requires having the patience to wait your turn.

  9. Module 9 : Just Listen

    Ironically enough, good communication requires us to be able to "just listen". Often times for men it is quite difficult to do. It is difficult because God made men to solve problems. Sometimes our wives do not want problems solved, they just want to vent.

    God knew the key to good healty relationships when he said be quick to listen and slow to speak.

    We both must be mindful to the human nature of why we were created and be understanding to each other. Now that we know men are naturally problem solvers, be understanding to that fact and let him know this is something you want him to "just listen" to.

    Being that it is against his nature, he has to learn this behavior. That is why we have these tools.

    Module 9 we we will be taking on two listening exercises.

    1.Good communication: Learn to Listen
    Healthy relationships depend on healthy communication. Being an expert "listener" is the most important of all communication skills and for many individuals the most difficult to do.

    2. Just Listen
    Often when we talk, we don't feel understood!
    Often when we listen, we wonder why our partner repeats or raises his or her voice!
    The answer is always the same — the person talking is not listened to and the person listening does not hear. Learn how to fix this communication problem.
    Read below "Just Listen" to your partner. Then take five or ten minutes to calmly talk about whatever you want. Take turns. Read "Just Listen" each time before you speak.

  10. Module 10 : Assertive Communication

    In Module 10 we will talk about being "assertive" in your communication.

    Assertive Communication: A communication style in which a
    person stands up for their own needs and wants, while also taking
    into consideration the needs and wants of others, without behaving
    passively or aggressively.

    Before we learn how to be "assertive", which could lead to a little aggression, let's talk about a few "Fair Fighting Rules"

  11. Module 11 : Stop A Sexless Marriage

    A sexless marriage. This may not seem possible to a young couple, but as the years go on this is a struggle each marriage face. We are here to help you be proactive in the matter and avoid the pitfall before it happens.

    Do you deliberately withhold romance and sexual intimacy from your partner? If so, you need to take a close look at your actions for two reasons.
    1. You are harming your relationship
    2. You are harming your partner
    Whatever marital problem you were trying to solve or point you are trying to make, by withholding romance and sex and creating a sexless marriage the result will be — regardless of your intentions — destructive!

    What does the bible say about the manner?
    "Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a LIMITED time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won't be able to tempt you because of your lack of Self-Control." 1 Corinthians 7:5

    We have to recognize the bible as truth. We have to recognize what it says withholding sex could do to our marriages.

  12. Module 12 : Steps to Fix A Sexless Marriage

    Sex in marriage is so important we had to touch on it for a second time. This time with steps to help you fix it. A third time will come towards the end.

    Sex is a way we connect with each other and become one. There is never a time when your partner feels more connected and concern for you and your needs.

    A couple's sex life is often a good measure of the overall health of their marriage or committed relationship. When sex stops, it means the marriage is in a tailspin. Sometimes it is the woman that withholds physical intimacy and sometimes it is the man or both. Regardless, a lack of romantic intimacy is the shortcut to relationship hell.

    With a "sexless marriage" — there is no way for these two married individuals to be happy with their relationship. This may sound extreme, but clinical experienced marriage and family therapist’s have proven this to be true. 

    If your sex life needs improvement – get to work and make it right! The health of your marriage depends on mutual sexual attraction.

    Again, what does the bible say about the manner?
    "Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a LIMITED time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won't be able to tempt you because of your lack of Self-Control." 1 Corinthians 7:5

  13. Module 13 : Needs: Understanding Needs & Emotional Needs

    Understanding your partner necessitates knowing what are his or her emotional needs as well as your own emotional needs so you can then inform your partner about them.
    When you understand what your partner's emotional needs are, and he or she yours, then it is possible to find positive ways to fulfill them. On the other hand, if there is a need, but it has not been identified or shared, it may then express itself in a negative way (with anger, rejection, moodiness, etc.).

  14. Module 14 : Feeling Loved Behaviors

    Being married is a voluntary association. Thus, you and your partner must be assets in each other's lives — this mostly means simply you need to feel good in each other's company. Behaving with your partner in such a way that he or she feels "loved and cared for" is the best way to achieve this.

  15. Module 15 : Catch Your Partner Doing Something Right

    Catch Your Partner Doing “Something Right” – build positive feelings
    Sometimes we get in a pattern of noticing and even making lists of what we think our partner does "wrong." Doing so creates relationship tension, blinds us to the "good" our partner does and shapes a negative view with a corresponding feeling about our partner. In total, this can all be very harmful to your marriage.

    This exercise will help you establish a new pattern of awareness. It requires you to find the good in what your partner does – that is, you need to "catch" him or her doing something right.

    Each day make a note of something your partner does that helps your relationship. Let your partner know that you appreciate what he or she did.

    Watch for times when you felt cared about, helped, or understood and try to identify specific things that led you to feel that way.

    Record what you acknowledged and the response of your partner.

  16. Module 16 : Fake it Until You Make it

    Fake It Until You Make It Acts of Love

    Feelings often lead to action. Sometimes the opposite is also true. Try letting your positive actions lead to positive feelings. Behave in a loving way with your partner – even if you don't feel like it – and it is very possible that genuine loving feelings will quickly follow.

    You may not be convinced that "faking it" makes sense. That is fine, just try it as an experiment for a week or two and see what happens. You might be surprised!

    Think of yourself as a Hollywood actor or actress. You are a gifted entertainer and you can play the part perfectly. Your part in this movie is to behave with love and respect toward your spouse.

  17. Module 17 : Romantic Awareness

    A romantic relationship is a thriving relationship. Make sure your marriage — in addition to everything else — has a healthy dose of romantic activities. Let romance increase emotional intimacy.

  18. Module 18 : Prepare to Prevent Infidelity

    Preparing to Prevent Infidelity:
    Social Guidelines
    Establishing an agreed upon set of rules that govern relationships with the opposite sex is essential in preventing affairs. Proper guidelines to prevent affairs gives purpose. Having purpose makes you cognitive engaged and leads you to set goals, or guidelines in this instance which will create behavioral consistency in any environmental condition. “Steps 1-4 in the purpose diagram.” This creates a level of trust, understand, and clearly written boundaries.


    (Purpose Diagram in Purpose of Marriage Module)

  19. Module 19 : Positive Steps in the Right Direction

    Positive Marriage Steps in the Right Direction
    The journey of a thousand miles starts not only with the first step, but this step must also be in the right direction. 
    Define your goals. Then – and only then – do you have a chance that you will arrive at the desired destination.
    If you haven’t defined goals for your marriage, this exercise will help you begin making the changes you are looking for and are needed to make a healthy relationship.
    Think of what you don't like about your relationship and then state what positive behavior would replace those things you don't want. For example: Problem, "I don't like it when my wife ignores me." Positive change, "My wife says good morning and good night."

    Print this exercise for ease of use and place inside of your Pathway 2 Purpose Marriage Preparation Bible.

  20. Module 20 : Building and Maintaining Sexual Intimacy

    Sexual intimacy is necessary if you are to have a healthy marriage. It's not enough to be "connected" in other areas of your lives and live in a sexually starved marriage. A sexless marriage is at risk of many different maladies. Accepting a sexless marriage can lead to infidelity, anger and resentment, and even divorce.

  21. Module 21 : Become One

    Becoming one is essential to the well being of your entire family. Your unique connection with your husband or wife should be clear to all.

  22. Module 22 : No More Secrets

    Secrecy Can Ruin Your Marriage 
     
    Trust is an essential component in a healthy marriage. Secrecy destroys that trust!  Secrecy destroys being one!

    Becoming One as you worked in last module requires that we get rid of all secrets.

  23. Module 23 : Beginning to Find Life Purpose

    This is a very important key to marriage. Where there is no vision the people perish. Your vision is what God purposed you for. If you don't know what that is, here is a beginning tool.

    This is about figuring your vision your purpose from God. The next module is about writing that purpose down and planning the steps to accomplish that vision.

    This week I will give you some questions to help you figure out your life purpose. This is where you will develop your mission statement. Developing your mission statement is vital for next week.

    Also see the free Life Purpose Gift PDF download under the About Me page.

    If you want additional help discovering your life purpose, what you were made to do, what will give you a sense of fulfillment, select the one on one coaching package.

  24. Module 24 : Writing the Family Vision & Planning

    Now that you have tools for your marriage to thrive on. Let's begin writing the plan. Let's see how the family can help you achieve the plan. Let's set the expectations of your family.

Donald Gibson

Christian Marriage Coach: CPC, CRC,
The Imperfect Coupl3 Preparing Imperfect Couples for Purpose Driven Marriages that can't be broken
Coach Donald Gibson


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