If you're a people pleaser like me one of the most useful skills you will ever learn is to say "no" without explaining yourself. People pleasers often get taken advantage of. Everyone knows they can count on you and you feel guilty letting them down.
It's hard for me to say no and when I do I always give a reason. "I'd love to watch Lizzy, but unfortunately that day we have a birthday party to go to." I've even been guilty of making something up if i don't have a legitimate excuse.
One day I simply said no. I simply said "Sorry I can't." That's it! No explanation, no excuse. It was hard and uncomfortable, but it was necessary for my sanity and I did it!
Try it! Next time someone asks you to do something you just don't feel like doing, simply say, "Sorry I can't." That's it, nothing else. I bet you'll find it liberating.
Let me know how your experience goes. I'd love to hear from you.
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