Mindy Amita Aisling

There is this pull, this yearning inside of each of us, to become bigger than the smallness of our human flesh, to come home to ourselves, to lead a life outside of this cage of expectations on our being.
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That thing, that pull in your gut, - that is what I help my clients uncover.

Together, we heal everything that has hardened and crystalized, blocking the path to that thing.  Old ideas, concepts, betrayals, beliefs - we invite them in, and with all the softness of presence, we allow them to shift, transform, and heal.  Then we build a way of being, a collection of habits - specific and unique to you, that support that thing in staying revealed so that you can lead your life from your authentic truth.  That thing is your weird and it is your wisdom. You can trust it to lead your life. It's time.  You know it is. 
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Uncover that bastard, and get living.

"You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert repenting.You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves." - Mary Oliver

Let the animal out, baby. ​

I am deeply committed to you living your most authentic life.  I believe that the world needs you.  Now.   

During our sessions, we will explore who you really are,  what you want most, and what your natural and most powerful way of achieving that is.  Coaching with me includes three main aspects. The first aspect is doing what I call the “inner work”.  This includes exploring & identifying the core beliefs and habits currently creating your life experiences.  We might discover that some of these belief systems need to be updated to help you create what you desire.  We'll investigate and discover just what makes you, you, and reveal your unique recipe for fulfillment.   We'll also work on identifying your values and aligning your thoughts and actions with them. Developing this level of self-awareness will allow you clearly identify your needs & tap into your unlimited creativity to meet these needs in any given moment (meaning you no longer have to wait for someone or something to be different so that you can feel happy, whole and complete).

The second is the "outer" work.  This includes learning new "tools" to put in your EI (emotional intelligence) tool-belt.  As you learn new skills, you will begin to show-up differently in your life and relationships.  Trying on a new way of being can be challenging and requires intention & commitment - which are are two skills that you will master while working with me.  This is also the aspect where you will make action-driven goals, and you'll be able to rely on me to hold you accountable for taking those actions.  Often this will require that you move through fear and discomfort to do things you haven't done before.  That's great!  I will be there to support you through the entire process.

The third aspect is creating ever-growing levels of presence.  You are the expert on your  life.  I will help you to get in touch with that expert, your own inner coach.  This is the part of you knows exactly what you want and gives you clues in every moment about what to do next. Working with your vision of what you want your life to look like, we will use these clues to take actions that will lead to extraordinary results.  By learning to pay attention to these clues, your attention will be drawn to people, things and situations. As we develop your intuition and trust in yourself, you will notice a dramatic improvement in your decision-making, timing, and results.  Your work and your life will become an enjoyable and continuous treasure hunt with unlimited treasures. This results in you accelerating your ability for success and having more of what you want in your life.  

I work with clients one-on-one over the phone or via video chat.  Sessions are easy to book and can take place from the comfort of your home. 

All of my coaching services are offered 100% online. 

I have always identified with being a strong, powerful woman.  That being said, I have lost my way, gone through hell, found myself, searched deeper, given too much, experienced wild success, ran in fear, jumped over impossible obstacles, and climbed up mountains (both literal and figurative).  
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These cycles of growth and bloom are unceasing. We are all on this journey that has no arrival point, and no clear destination. We are humans having the human experience - and it is terrifying, beautiful, awe-inspiring, and completely confusing.  It is the gift that is given to all of us: Life. 

My life started off without the privileges that I enjoy today.  I didn’t have the privilege of being able to eat whenever I was hungry. I didn’t have the privilege of a stable home, available parents, cultural experiences, or education. Living in poverty means that moved around a lot, we were evicted from apartments, and sometimes we lived in our car. We made ends meet, which meant things like occasionally living without electricity or reusing bath water. During the times when my mom couldn’t take care of me, I was passed around to various relatives or stayed with friends. Eventually, when I was 15, I was completely re-homed, and I lost the only community that I had ever known. The grief of this experience transported me to the edge of my sanity, and I wondered if I’d survive. I thought that there was a good chance that I’d live the rest of my life in a mental hospital. It was at this time that I discovered, as many of us do at some point in our lives, that there is more in us than we know. I pulled from a deep inner reservoir and stepped into my resiliency.

I have been blessed with a vastly intelligent mind and wild curiosity about the world. One of the gifts of my strange, disjointed childhood was to graduate high school at start college at the age of 16.  It was here that I cultured a deep love for learning and I began to understand how knowledge of the world around me colored all of my experiences. I saw that I could add depth and meaning to my world by learning new things. I voraciously pursued this endeavor.    

At 17 I found myself on my own in a studio apartment, working full-time, and going to college. The unhealed wounds from my childhood led me to the next step in my journey. One that would provide me with what I needed to reveal the next truest and most beautiful version of myself.  It was at this point in my life when I met the father of my son.  I had experienced so much loss and abandonment in my childhood, that having a controlling, obsessive partner felt really good.  It felt like love.   
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We got married, bought a home, started a business, and my son was born.  On the outside, my life looked like a picture of success.  I was 24 and I had the "white picket fence" dream.  What most people didn't know is that it was a carefully constructed image designed to hide a dark reality.   Then one day, a week before Thanksgiving, as I put my infant son to bed, he came into the nursery in a rage, calling me names, throwing things, and creating holes in the walls with his fists.  I was consumed by fear, but something shifted in me and once again I reached into my reserve of strength and resiliency. The next morning, I quietly packed and left with my son. I never set foot in that house again.
It was at this point in my life that I began to explore the question, "What is it about me that is creating my experience of life?"  I remember sitting in the basement of the domestic violence center, drinking bad coffee, and thinking, "How is it possible that I got here?  I am attractive, intelligent, and kind.... what happened?"  
 
This moment in my life launched me into my next level of growth and development as a human. This was the moment I began to prioritize my own healing and self-discovery.  Since this time, I have never stopped exploring questions like: How is who I am creating the world as I experience it? How do my belief systems impact my relationships? How do my thoughts limit and/or support my success? Where are my unhealed wounds driving my life subconsciously? What in my life is out of alignment with my true self? ​
This exploration has led me to various spiritual investigations, academic education, travel, a deep study of religion, philosophy & psychology, a trip to India to stay in an ashram, several certifications in a variety of health and wellness practices, soul healing, meditation, and finally my life's purpose: becoming a Life Coach, and assisting others to thrive.  I was able to attend one of the best coaching schools in the world, graduating in 2010 with educational credits and client hours that far exceeded the requirements set forth by the International Coaching Federation (ICF). ​

While I was busy exploring myself and the spiritual world, I was also exploring my intelligence, logic and natural skills as a leader & entrepreneur.  This led me to successfully run 3 small businesses in different fields. One of those business I took (with my 2 partners) from an at-home(garage) business to a million dollar a year manufacturer in just over one year.  I found that I have a natural brilliance for ideas and creating things in the physical reality and business world.  I am a third-generation entrepreneur, and I have repeatably drawn on the practical wisdom that has been passed down to me.  Combining this wisdom with an education in business, I’ve been extremely effective as a manager, executive director, and business owner. Now, I have the privilege of coaching other business leaders and (my favorite!) new entrepreneurs ready to bring into the world a business as unique as they are. 

In my 30’s I experienced an auto accident where an intoxicated driver crossed into my lane and hit me head-on.  I was trapped in my car for hours, losing over 2 liters of blood, but thanks to the emergency response and helivac crews, I made it to the trauma center in time for them to save my life.  I was in a hospital bed for three months, graduating then to a wheel chair, then a walker, then a cane, … and then finally, my own two legs again. For years, I have continued to experience complications, and undergo additional surgeries. This physical accident shook up my inner world (thoughts, belief systems, emotions) as much as it did my physical world. I felt as though my inner self was a broken open as much as my outer body was. Healing from this accident, both physically and spiritually, has been one of the most vibrant threads in the tapestry of my life. It has shaped my story in so many incredible ways. Almost dying is a strange experience, with both its trauma and its gifts – many of which I am still unpacking.  ​

In my 40’s, I experienced extreme burn-out. Yup, the real thing. I had heard about it before, but had never experienced how an unbalanced life can lead to loss of self and physical health. Going through this provided me with a new level of understanding of the human experience, and what we need to BE our best selves. It is not about being happy all of the time. It is not about faking it till you make it, or putting a positive spin on it.  It is not about how productive you can be, or how much you can do.

Being human is about really, deeply truly living into all the corners of our beings. Bringing ourselves to every nook and cranny, and being courageous enough to stand with our shoulders back and head held high to whatever the outer world brings us, or our inner world reveals to us. In order to do this, we must become masters of self-care. The experts of balance. We must be scrupulous AF about what we allow into our lives.  
As a mother, I have navigated the road of divorce, being a single parent, and raising a kid with SPD into a high-functioning young man. We’ve been blessed with a family that spans a wide range on the neurodivergence spectrum.   I have learned how to tread the path of having a child with a bio-dad in and out of prison and addicted to drugs.  Life has provided me with the beautifully challenging path of finding love as a single mom, and then creating a successful blended family.  

Now, I find myself embarking on the adventure of letting go of this beautiful creature that I have loved and cherished these 19 years. I find myself filled with equal parts of grief and excitement. Being a mom is, by far, the most powerful experience of my lifetime. My body cannot contain the gratitude I have for being chosen as the mother for my son. He is one of my favorite humans on this planet. I adore him. 

There is nothing I love more than being a wife and a homemaker. I am setting out to completely reshape what we culturally assume and accept about these roles. This is the area of my life where my inner rebel comes out to play in the world.
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I am a bad-ass homemaker.  
I am the mistress of my nest.  
I am an outlaw for love.  
I am in cahoots with my ever-expanding heart.  
I have been delighted to discover that my marriage is a partnership of rich play, fierce acceptance, and massive celebration. It is a wild adventure, a rush to achieve the things that each of us wants to experience in this lifetime - even the most unrealistic or spectacularly odd dreams and desires are welcomed.  My marriage is a haven of trust and support. My love for my husband is something I’ve sworn to aid and abet as it runs wildly free through me.  
 
I have been through many different traumas and I have overcome each one.  Because trauma does not define me (and it doesn’t define you, either). I've learned how to be comfortable being uncomfortable, and how to find and create joy in the strangest of places. I have learned how to stand at the center of life and not shrink back.  ​
Life is my gift.  My own personal, wonderful gift!  I am thankful for every tiny piece of it, the good and the bad.  I relish the delight of living.  I savor the joy of learning, being, thinking, and feeling.  
 
I am a success.  I am a failure.  I am a bad-ass.  I am a tiny frightened child.  I am a wise sage.  I am fearless.  I need.  I want.  I have. I give.  I am a woman.  I am a life coach.  I am you.  I am me.   
 
I am Maddie Scott. 
 
Live your most authentic life, and nothing less. 

I work with each client to meet them where they are at - this includes financially.  During your free session, we'll discuss how much time, energy, and money you're ready to invest in coaching, and we'll design a package that is custom fit for you!