Shem Spillane

Due to some serious trauma in my childhood, I had repressed memories that festered for 30 years.  Once I got the help I needed, I realized I needed to change my view of myself.  
Changing a mindset from negative to one that is positive takes hard work, but also motivation and accountability to reach success.

I have lived with the pain and self-doubt that can stay with you your entire life from childhood.  I overcame these issues, and want to help you.  No one should life with a negative mindset for any second longer.  It is not needed, it is not natural, and it is not healthy in any way (physical, emotional, spiritual, sexual, etc.) 

I am not a therapist.  I am not a doctor.  I am an authority on changing mindset, overcoming low self-esteem, and self-sabotage. If you want to be more successful, have motivation to attain and exceed your desires, let me help you by noting and encouraging you to work at grabbing hold of the success that is right there in front of you.

The ABC‘s of working with Shem

A - Accountability

      B - Belief in yourself

            C - Compassion to yourself and others

I look forward to seeing you reach your goals, and will be honoured to play a small part. 

You do the work, I just motivate you to achieve success.

I really listen to you.  Then ask questions that only you can answer.  I do not tell you what to do, nor will I give unsolicited advice. Everyone needs to be reminded of their abilities and strengths.  I will teach you how to find and remember them for yourself.

I have trained myself (over the course of many years) to keep my mouth shut when other people are talking.  I used to jump into a conversation without listening to the problem and give knowledge and advice to solve the problem at hand.

Except because I wasn't listening, I didn't KNOW the problem at hand. 

So now I do as I was told by my parents 40 years ago: I "sit down, shut up and listen!"

I will listen to you.  When we are together working, you are my only client.  For the length of our session (45, 60, 90 or 120 minutes) it is your time.  We will work on what you want, what you need and any advice I give will only be given if and when you first give me permission.

I will ask questions that require you to do a deep inner search of your whole person.  These questions will allow you to look at yourself, your habits, beliefs, and overall personality from vantage points you either have forgotten about, never used, or maybe have hidden from yourself subconsciously.

I will not hypnotize, teach you to meditate or any other woo-like activities.  I will listen, and make notes of recurring issues then let you know what I heard, and if you want to delve deeper to see if there are reasons to make changes.

If you are honest with yourself and with me, I know every session will have you come out feeling better, less stressed and emotionally lighter.  I am there to let you talk about the issues that are important to you.

I am not a therapist.  I am not a doctor. But I have had help from both, and from coaches and mentors.  So now I want to pay it forward and help others.  I will work with you so you do not need to live with stress and pressure any longer.

We can talk to each other over the phone.  The time that is booked for each session is your time.  You decide how it is used when we are together working.

We can meet up on Zoom, so we can both benefit from the visual aspects of our learning.  Working by Zoom is a great way to build a strong connection, and trust in each other.

I can deliver motivational presentations for small groups of up to 10 people.  Over ten people it is harder to meet the needs of all in the group in a short period of time.

I have lived with and overcome trauma caused by sexual abuse in my childhood.  My siblings also had this same trauma, and having repressed my own memories, lived with survivors' guilt.

I grew up with low self-esteem, and constantly berate myself with harsh self-talk.  I had no confidence in myself nor my abilities.

After getting the help that I needed, I wanted to help others who are suffering as I had.  I am now in a place where I can help you understand that YOU can overcome all the roadblocks and setbacks in your life.

I help you make yourself better. 

I have 2 coaching programs. 
The first is unlimited 15-minute coaching sessions for $997USD per year (renewable subject to price changes).  You can have multiple 15-minutes focused coaching calls when needed.  But if it was agreed that action would be taken, you will not be able to continue the calls until that action is taken.  You will be held accountable for your own success.  No hand-holding or coddling.

The second program has longer sessions, has the ability to go deep into why we make the decisions and take the actions we do.  These highly successful coaching sessions are held over a 12 week period, with regularly scheduled calls each week.

This 12-week program is $2497USD.  It is renewable (but if not renewed concurrently, may be subject to price changes).