I hear all the time reasons why things are the way they are and how there is nothing that can be done about it. Many people feel trapped in their life and are afraid to rock the boat hard enough to make necessary changes.
It is not uncommon for women to devote their lives to stay at home and raise their family; however, being isolated can bring about insecurity. Before they know it they are compromising themselves, their needs, and don’t put themselves in the equation at all. 'It's ok I can do it' becomes their default mantra.
They find that they lose themselves and forget who they are and what it is that they enjoy doing. They find themselves going along with what everyone else wants to do because it’s easier. All this does is create disrespect for yourself and your needs.
This behaviour can have long term impact on everyone. Very often I hear from women who have become resentful, feel that they are not considered and ultimately disrespected by others. When left unspoken, things can quickly get out of hand and before they know it divorce feels like the only option.
When we are strong in ourselves, have our own interests and show the rest of the family that we matter, then they have to adapt to that. When we fit in, and give the family priority over ourselves, we are taken for granted and expected to be on call to their every whim.
Coaching can help you remember who you are, what inspires you and re-energises your zest for life. It may also give you the confidence to calmly instigate a crisis talk with your partner about what needs to happen for each person to save the marriage.
When you can be your-self, and respect your-self, then everyone else will respect and value you. If you act like you don't count, or do not value yourself, then people will treat you that way too. It is always reflected back to us.
Can you see yourself in the above scenario? It is more common than we realise. When both parties are fulfilled and feel supported by each other and considered or appreciated, life feels so much more connected and balanced.
If you feel you would benefit from some Coaching around this area, I would love to be a part of your journey.