Healing After A Break Up

End of relationships

A common challenge that many of us face is going through the emotional ups and downs that inevitably happen when a relationship comes to an end.

The following relationship coach tip will help you release and let go of any negative emotions that might be getting in the way of letting go of your previous relationship.

Let's face it. Whenever a breakup occurs in a relationship, one of both parties will have a tendency to go through a variety of different emotions and feelings.

And that's ok.

But, truth be told, when we find ourselves wondering when will the pain ever end and the healing begin. That's when we have the opportunity to grow beyond on the limited expectations and beliefs that we had in our previous relationship.

How to heal from a break up

One of the most effective ways that you can begin to heal after the end of a relationship is to take time each day to practice the following post-relationship healing technique.

1. Take a few moments to make yourself comfortable and relax as you allow yourself to focus on what you are feeling and experiencing in the moment.
2. Bring your focus and attention on any issue revolving around the break-up and past relationship that you would like to feel better about.
   Depending on what stage you are in the break-up the feelings that you feel might be really strong or just a lingering yet intrusive feeling. No matter what, just welcome the feeling as best you can.
3. As you continue to allow the feelings that you are feeling to be there ask yourself... "Could I let this feeling go?"
   Keep in mind, that you are asking yourself this question to simply see if the act of letting go is possible. It really doesn't matter if you answer "Yes" or "no" both are acceptable.
4. No matter if you said "Yes" or "no" to letting go of the feelings that you are feelings, ask yourself... "Would you let go?"
   Now, as you ask yourself this, try to stay away from getting into an internal debate as best you can More importantly, remember that you are doing this process for you in order to gain clarity and freedom from a past relationship that is no longer serving you.
   If you find yourself, still saying "no" or if you are not sure if you are willing to let go, just consider if you would rather have the feelings that you are feeling now or would you rather be free.
5. Regardless of how you responded to "would you let go?" ask yourself... "When? When will you let go?"
   At this time, you may find yourself easily letting go. However, never forget that letting go is a decision you can make any time you choose to.
6. Repeat steps 1 thru 5 as often as you need to gain more clarity and freedom from your past relationship. 

As you continue to go through this process again and again, what you will discover is that the results you get from it will become greater and greater.

Feel happy again

Of course, as you can imagine, when you are able to run through this process and many others like it with a life coach, you are able to dive even deeper into the challenge that you face and experience the kind of freedom that you might not have even known was possible.

Yet, truth be told, you don’t need anyone else’s permission to be happy. And hopefully you have begun to realize that the more you can accept what is, embrace it fully, and live for something greater than just yourself, the easier it will become to let go of those things that no longer serve you.

Also, if you have difficulty feeling your emotions you can start by simply focusing your attention on any holding or tension that you might be feeling in your body. Just allow yourself to feel your body from within and gently release any holding or tension that you have been carrying since the breakup or end of your relationship.

What’s more, deep down you probably already know this but I am going to say it anyway. Every moment is a blessing so spend your moments on things that truly matter in your heart.

In the end, the choice is yours:

• You can dwell on the past, trying to change what already happen
• Or you can begin to release and let go in order to open yourself up to an even greater amount of good that is waiting for you, right here and right now.

Thaddeus Ferguson is a Master Life Coach and the founder of www.HealYouFirst.com

He has been helping people lead more empowered lives by changing the way they view life on a deeper more spiritual level.