What makes you settle for less than you deserve?
Every day I find people that are settling for less than they deserve. Why is that? Is it lack of funding for that dream? Lack of inspirational ideas? Or is it just the way it is, the way its always been, and the way it will always be?
Unfortunately, we as a society live in a negative world that feeds on itself making those with uncertainty feel weak and powerless to move forward and progress toward their dreams and goals. I grew up in a family that thought just like that. "This is just how things are." Always settling for less because only the wealthy have the ability to achieve more, and that is the way it will always be. That was the story that I was lead to believe for 20 years of my life. I was never given any real motivation or positive outlook that I can achieve anything that I desire. It took me another 10 years to discover the real answer as to why my family and most of my friends ended up settling.
Difficulties in overcoming roadblocks
Life is not a fair player and likes to create some event or circumstance that always becomes a road block that each and every one of us must face. This is how we learn and grow. However, most people allow these roadblocks to knock them off their feet. The shock and the fear of the moment causes them to expect the worst and they become paralyzed in the moment instead of acknowledging the situation and preparing for a solution. They become afraid and that fear sits with them unconciously causing them to create a defensive wall for the fear of getting hit again.
This is what leads people to believe that this must be the way it is and it eventually causes them to quit or worse, never even start in the first place. I believe Bo Bennet said it best- “They are only partially living or at best living a partial life. Every Human being HAS the potential for greatness.”
Living in a Negative environment
So, why aren’t there more successful people in the world if we all carry the potential for greatness? Why aren't people hungry for the opportunity to live their dream? The answer… Because we live in such a negative environment.
Most people do not believe that their dream is even possible. We are fed that idea unconsciously from day one. We tend to hear these words a lot:
- You can't do that!
- That idea will never work.
- Get you head out of the clouds
This only further instills the belief that their goals and dreams are unattainable and they become afraid of the vulnerabilities that are associated with pursuing that dream, which in turn causes lack of motivation and interest to even take the first step. Pure and simple.
Your potential for greatness
Everyone can achieve greatness. It's not something that only the few select or those people born into wealthy families will ever taste. The way to achieve success/your dream is simple… Before you convince anyone else in the world to believe it, you have to convince yourself to believe it.
Otherwise without belief, you will be lead down the path of discouragement once you hit that inevitable roadblock and you will eventually give up. Most people that lack the belief that they can do it will end up quitting when they think they are going to tackle the next big idea. And they end up repeating this vicious cycle several times throughout their lifetime. Those who can't break free of that cycle will end up taking all of their ideas, inventions, stories and greatness to the grave, thus taking away the chance to grow from such things.
Believing in your own success
You must learn how to break that cycle and make the decision to go “ALL IN” physically, emotionally, and mentally, which allows you to start becoming the person you want to be and in turn create your own success. When it comes to pursuing your dream there is no reason to have a backup plan B because is distracts from plan A. Tony Robbins said "If you want to take the island, you have got to burn your boats." Because without your boat you have nowhere else to go except forward.
The last thing I want to touch on is something we are all guilty of. And that is the famous quote "Don't Judge A Book By Its Cover." I like what Johann Wolfgang von Goethe said: "If you look at a man the way that he is, he will remain the same. But if you look at him as if he were what he could be, then he will become what he should be."
Most people in today's society look at men and women as they are, and very few look at them for what they can become. If you were asked to imagine an iceberg floating in the water, most would say they see a giant cube of ice and forget that the mass of the iceberg is under water that they can't see. The tip of the iceberg represents your knowledge, skills, and physical abilities. The part under the water represents your thoughts, beliefs, and values. What is interesting is that the tip is only 2% of the total mass and the part under water is...you guessed it, 98%. Yet our society mainly focuses on the 2% because its a metric that they can see. What's even more interesting is that coincidentally 2% of our population controls 98% of the money. Why is that? Luck? Or did they figure out the magic formula for success?
So, If we strive to see the true potential of those, we as a society look down upon, not only will they become the people they were meant to become, but we will start to change our ways and step into a greatness that words cannot describe. But it all must start with one person willing to take that leap of faith and discover for themselves that there is more to life than what they've been taught.