Accepting the good and the bad
Throughout the different phases of our lives, it is our experience and relationships, both good and bad, that play a pivotal role in determining who we become. However, those experiences don't just leave us with photographs and happy momentos, there are often scars and wounds that follow us through life and greatly influence our decisions.
Every so often, we must sit and take inventory of our lives. This means we need to examine our emotions, thoughts and our interpersonal relationship; a spring cleaning so to speak. This is often a difficult, but necessary process to free us from things that may be weighing us down and create room for new experiences.
Through this process, we will laugh, cry and go through a whole range of emotions, but most importantly we heal. But first, we discover that we have the following:
- Negative thoughts we hold onto
- Wounds that never fully healed
- Grudges, anger, bitternes and resentment that has been secretly poisoning us from the inside out
The Process of Healing
Below is a list of questions to help you get started. So grab a mirror and a box of tissues and ask yourself:
- Is there anyone who I've been taking for granted. If so, how can I make amends?
- Is there anyone who has been taking me for granted. If so, what can I do about it?
- Are there any unhealthy habits or relationships that I need to let go of in order to have a more fulfilling life?
- What new habits can I form to improve my quality of life?
- Am I holding onto any negative aspects of my past that keep me from moving forward?
- Including myself, is there anyone I need to forgive?
- Is there something simple that I can start doing to add more joy to my life?
- Am I living the life I want? If not, what is holding me back?
While we may not know the meaning of life, what we do know is that life is short. We've lost loved ones, who - even though the died in their older age - we felt as though they left too soon.
That being said, it's even more important that we spend the time that we have filled with purpose. We all need to take some time to fully evaluate our lives and interpersonal relationships. While this may reveal truths that we may not want to admit and force us to make difficult decisions, remember that the future ahead of you will be much better than your past. However, you can't step into the future still holding onto the past, let go and step forward.
I hope this gives you the courage and inspiration you need to step into your future, because you won't get a second chance and the future just won't be the same without you.